by We all have been taught from childhood that think before you do anything. Think before you speak, think before you act!!! Think as hard as you can. What do we do when we think? Either try to imagine how our current action would unfold in future or analyze what has happened in past when I did something similar. Hence, thinking would actually distract you from what you are doing right now which is the present. Thinking creates pressure where you try to imagine all possible future outcomes and have a plan for everything. There would always be unforeseen things and your plans would not work all the time. This gives butterflies in stomach when speaking in public or dealing with something new or in that job interview.
I don’t mean to say that do not think, however want to imply that leave strategizing for thinking time and action for action time. You only live in present even when you are thinking about past or planning for future. There are hundreds of thoughts every hour in human brain and not all thoughts are created equal. Hence, let these thought come and go. Focus on the present moment.
Anxiety and Regret
Anxiety is what would happen in future and regret is what was done in past. They drift us away from present and would not allow us to focus and give our best in the present moment. This might sound crazy but you should not always trust that sound in your head. Our mind does not always tells us the truth. Its biased and forms opinions on how one talks, looks and present themselves. Our mind is biased towards certain kind of people and start trusting them more and vice versa. However, we all have misjudged others intentions towards us at some point of time.
So whatever your mind says, just take a moment to realize if its making any sense. Thought like:
- I am bad spouse
- I am bad parent
- No body thinks I am funny or attractive.
- Its too late to change
Our mind is actually a monkey mind, so don’t trust everything it has to tell you.
Planning too hard
No one even the most successful people in the world or the most powerful super computer can predict or plan for future by 100% accuracy. Plans fail all the time and the beautiful picture in your head about retirement or things would be perfect after the current milestone would never happen. Life is rough and has ups and downs, this is what makes it beautiful. After all we all enjoy sunset and sunrise. Perfect picture of life is the one where sun never sets. Its unrealistic.
There would never be content, you would achieve something and something else would pop in your head. So keep acting and stop overthinking. If you miss on one opportunity, hundreds would come up after few days or months. Life is journey and enjoy it without worrying about reaching a specific destination.
